{"id":191,"date":"2016-02-19T17:52:43","date_gmt":"2016-02-20T00:52:43","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/ogbornelaw.com\/?p=191"},"modified":"2023-07-24T22:29:59","modified_gmt":"2023-07-24T22:29:59","slug":"help-through-divorce","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/webtechs-designs.com\/2023Ogborne\/help-through-divorce\/","title":{"rendered":"Help Your Family Help You through Divorce"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Many parents are focused on managing their children through divorce and forget to take care of themselves.<\/p>\n<p>From emotional discussions with your soon to be ex to stressful thoughts about the future, it\u2019s easy to get burned out. You have to take care of yourself through this stressful time or you\u2019ll end up exhausted.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s no good for your kids or for you.<\/p>\n<p>While many of us aren\u2019t used to letting other people take care of us, now is the time to reach out for support from friends and family.<\/p>\n<p>We\u2019ve outlined successful things our collaborative divorce clients have done to make their lives a little easier and to give them some breathing room so they can make it out the other side.<\/p>\n<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_76 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-grey ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title\" style=\"cursor:inherit\">Table of Contents<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><a href=\"#\" class=\"ez-toc-pull-right ez-toc-btn ez-toc-btn-xs ez-toc-btn-default ez-toc-toggle\" aria-label=\"Toggle Table of Content\"><span class=\"ez-toc-js-icon-con\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseProfile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a><\/span><\/div>\n<nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 ' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/webtechs-designs.com\/2023Ogborne\/help-through-divorce\/#Taking_care_of_the_kids\" >Taking care of the kids<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/webtechs-designs.com\/2023Ogborne\/help-through-divorce\/#Make_time_for_YOU\" >Make time for YOU<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/webtechs-designs.com\/2023Ogborne\/help-through-divorce\/#Choose_friends_carefully\" >Choose friends carefully<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/webtechs-designs.com\/2023Ogborne\/help-through-divorce\/#Get_counseling\" >Get counseling<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-5\" href=\"https:\/\/webtechs-designs.com\/2023Ogborne\/help-through-divorce\/#Make_rules_about_talking_about_divorce\" >Make rules about talking about divorce<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-6\" href=\"https:\/\/webtechs-designs.com\/2023Ogborne\/help-through-divorce\/#Next_steps\" >Next steps<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Taking_care_of_the_kids\"><\/span>Taking care of the kids<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Ask for help taking care of the kids for school pick up or drop off especially if you\u2019re trying to juggle your own job or business. It\u2019s okay to let them stay with grandparents overnight while you take some time to decompress, whether that\u2019s a night at the movies or a quiet evening at home with a favorite book.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Make_time_for_YOU\"><\/span>Make time for YOU<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Whether it\u2019s a quiet walk, kid-free time with friends, or self-care like a massage, it\u2019s important for you to take care of you. You can\u2019t be strong for your family if you\u2019re burnt out. Schedule time during your week to do something that will help you recover from the stress.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Choose_friends_carefully\"><\/span>Choose friends carefully<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Hanging out with friends who are bitter about their divorce may not be the healthiest choice for you. Stay away from the victim language and mentality and spend time with positive people who encourage you. You may still be upset about things that happen during your divorce but it\u2019s a lot easier when you\u2019re not carrying someone else\u2019s baggage during the process.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Get_counseling\"><\/span>Get counseling<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Divorce sucks but you will survive. There\u2019s no better way to take care of you than to work with a professional. Many people find that this process allows them to handle their feelings, identify new ways to cope with feelings, and to address unresolved issues that may make moving forward difficult. Take your friends up on their offer to watch the kids and make an appointment with a counselor who can help you navigate this time of change in your life.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Make_rules_about_talking_about_divorce\"><\/span>Make rules about talking about divorce<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Your friends mean well when they ask about your divorce but if you want to talk about something else, you need to tell them. Sometimes the best thing is to focus on something positive and life-giving like your children or the new life you\u2019re creating for yourself.<\/p>\n<p>Allowing your friends and family to help you through this time will help you adjust to your new life and remain positive even in the face of stressful times.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Next_steps\"><\/span>Next steps<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>It doesn\u2019t matter if you can\u2019t or won\u2019t do all of the things we\u2019ve outlined above.<\/p>\n<p>What matters is that you do any of them.<\/p>\n<p>Remember that being strong during divorce doesn\u2019t mean doing it alone. It means recognizing when you need help the most and getting it.<\/p>\n<p>If you can handle that, you\u2019ll find that you can get through almost anything during and after your divorce.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Many parents are focused on managing their children through divorce and forget to take care of themselves. Finding time during the divorce for self care is important. 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