{"id":217,"date":"2016-03-14T13:38:47","date_gmt":"2016-03-14T20:38:47","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/ogbornelaw.com\/?p=217"},"modified":"2023-07-24T22:20:52","modified_gmt":"2023-07-24T22:20:52","slug":"kids-handle-divorce","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/webtechs-designs.com\/2023Ogborne\/kids-handle-divorce\/","title":{"rendered":"How Kids Handle Divorce"},"content":{"rendered":"

What happens if you\u2019re doing everything right to talk to your kids about divorce<\/strong> and they\u2019re still acting up? Remember you\u2019re the adult.<\/p>\n

They\u2019re testing their boundaries with you and still need your love and support even if it doesn\u2019t seem like they care.<\/p>\n

From their point of view, their stable home has been torn in two.<\/p>\n

They may blame themselves and think that because their parents don\u2019t love each other that it means their parents won\u2019t love them either. They start acting out in school or home and fight with siblings or friends.<\/p>\n

They\u2019re not acting out to get into trouble.<\/p>\n

They\u2019re confused and don\u2019t know how to communicate with you. In their mind, children see their parents getting back together but you know that won\u2019t happen.<\/p>\n

What can you do to help kids deal with divorce?<\/p>\n

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  1. Communicate you care. Even in their worst outbursts your child wants to know you still love them. Continue to encourage, love, and support them through this confusing and stressful time. Tell them they are safe and loved and not to blame for the divorce. Even if it feels like they\u2019re ignoring you, they are listening.<\/li>\n
  2. Let kids (and yourself) grieve. Acting out is a sign of anger about their changed family. Allow them time to grieve their family that once was and accept their new life, just like you should do for yourself. Establish or keep routines as similar to pre-divorce as you can so the kids can work through their emotions without worrying about a new routine.<\/li>\n
  3. Tell kids the schedule. Kids need predictability. Make sure they know the visitation schedule including who is picking them up at school and activities, and where they are spending the night. It will help them feel less stressed and more focused on school and activities.<\/li>\n
  4. Focus on the kids. Working with an ex-spouse can be more stressful than the divorce. Do your best to shield kids from adult conversations. Work with your ex to establish household rules like consistent bedtime, rules about foods that are off-limits like soda and chips, and shows or websites kids are allowed to view at each home.<\/li>\n
  5. Consider therapy. Children need a safe place to express their feelings and they may not feel like talking to you or your ex. Provide the opportunity through counseling so your kids can talk about the divorce without feeling like they\u2019re hurting one parent or the other.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Often outbursts are a sign children need more stability and a place where they can safely talk about their feelings. Even in the best of circumstances it\u2019s important to provide these outlets to your children.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    Handling divorce isn’t always easy for your kids. We offer some tips to help you help them navigate this challenging process. Between these tips and working with a professional, you can go a long way to making it easier.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":11700,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[30,35],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-217","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-divorce","category-parenting","category-30","category-35","description-off"],"yoast_head":"\nHow Kids Handle Divorce - Ogborne Law, PLC<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Helping your kids handle divorce is an important part of your role as a parent. 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