{"id":326,"date":"2016-06-30T14:57:11","date_gmt":"2016-06-30T21:57:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ogbornelaw.com\/?p=326"},"modified":"2023-07-24T21:45:40","modified_gmt":"2023-07-24T21:45:40","slug":"divorce-process-through-kids-eyes","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/webtechs-designs.com\/2023Ogborne\/divorce-process-through-kids-eyes\/","title":{"rendered":"Divorce Process Through Your Kids Eyes"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cWhen my mom and dad told me they were going to get divorced, I was pretty sad. And confused. I mean, I have friends whose parents are divorced, but that always seemed like it wouldn\u2019t happen to my family. Some friends think it\u2019s cool because they get two of everything, but I don\u2019t know. I like spending time with Mom and Dad together, and I\u2019m not sure if that will happen anymore.\u201d ~ Christian, age 7<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

\u201cI was really mad when my parents told me they weren\u2019t going to live together anymore. I love our house, and I don\u2019t want to move. We\u2019re super close to all my friends\u2019 houses, and I get to see them all the time now. Where are we going to live? And does this mean Mom will have to get a job and I\u2019ll be alone after school? It\u2019s so unfair! Why couldn\u2019t they just figure it out? They always tell me I\u2019m #1, but they were obviously lying or they wouldn\u2019t be getting divorced.\u201d ~ Isabelle, age 11<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

\u201cI don\u2019t know what I did. I do good in school and I pay attention. I listen to my parents. I must have done something to make them not love each other anymore. I feel like I could cry all the time.\u201d ~ Jayden, age 6<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

When young children are facing the effects of a divorce, they go through a number of emotions. The younger they are, the more they\u2019ll internalize what\u2019s going on around them; everything is their fault in their minds. Toward the end of elementary school, they\u2019re starting to have a crew of best friends, and the prospect of going to a different school or living in a different place can be very scary for them.<\/p>\n

\u201cIt\u2019s kind of cool that I get to have two houses, but it\u2019s kind of scary too. I\u2019m not sure where I\u2019ll be when my parents live in two different places. What if I forget where I\u2019m supposed to go that day and take the wrong bus home from school?\u201d ~ Sarah, age 10<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

\u201cRight after Mom and Dad told me they were getting a divorce, things started to change. Dad moved out almost right away, and we didn\u2019t see him very much. Mom cried a lot. I\u2019m just a kid, but now I\u2019m taking care of my little sister more because Mom isn\u2019t acting like Mom anymore. And with Dad not there, I don\u2019t know what to do.\u201d ~ Noah, age 9<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Kids need stability and routines; that\u2019s how they make sense of the world around them. Divorce adds a monkey wrench in their day-to-day activities. Who\u2019ll take them to school and pick them up? Will Mom and Dad both go to their soccer games, ballet recitals, and school plays? How will birthdays and Christmas be? They have a lot of unanswered questions\u2014many of which they\u2019ll be too confused or scared to even ask.<\/p>\n

\u201cEven though I\u2019m not happy that my mom and dad are getting divorced, I kind of get it. We all sat down as a family, and we talked it all out. It\u2019s still pretty confusing, but I can see that they look happy and are acting like friends, so that helps. They promised that we\u2019ll still do some family things for a while, and we can even have my birthday together, if I want. And I get a phone to call them and Grandma and Grandpa, so that\u2019s cool. Sure, I\u2019d rather that we all lived in the same house, but lots of kids have divorced parents. I know that my mom and dad love me, so I know it will be okay.\u201d ~ Annie, age 12<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

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When you and your spouse choose to end your marriage, it\u2019s important to let your children in on the conversation as soon as possible and to talk with them in language they understand. Stress how much you love them, that they did nothing to cause the divorce, and that you\u2019re both going to continue to be around for them.<\/p>\n

Create schedules immediately; don\u2019t let even a week go by with the kids not knowing what\u2019s happening. Keeping things simple and \u201cbusiness as usual\u201d will help young children process the situation in their own way.<\/p>\n

Make it safe to talk about anything with either of you. Acknowledge your child\u2019s feelings and allow them to ask questions or talk about their other parent with love. Don\u2019t make them take sides or you\u2019ll create animosity that\u2019s challenging to overcome.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

\u201cWhen my parents told me they were getting divorced, I was scared. I didn\u2019t know what would happen. But they are doing something called a collaborative divorce, and we all work together. People ask what I think about things and what I want to do. People don\u2019t usually ask kids what they think, so I like that. Mom and Dad were talking about their grown-up stuff, and I got to talk about my stuff with a super-nice lady. I like that we\u2019re doing this together, even if we don\u2019t live together anymore.\u201d ~ Alex, age 10<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

If you\u2019re considering divorce, avoid a contentious separation and opt instead for a collaborative divorce. Working as a family unit, you\u2019ll have the support you all need to move through this transition with dignity and respect. Contact us at Ogborne Law to learn more about this positive resolution that will help your children make sense of it all.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Divorce is an extremely painful experience for children. When done through the collaborative divorce process, families can help children understand what’s happening. See divorce through kid’s eyes.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":11662,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[32,38,30],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-326","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-collaborative-divorce","category-communication","category-divorce","category-32","category-38","category-30","description-off"],"yoast_head":"\nDivorce Process Through Your Kids Eyes - Ogborne Law, PLC<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Divorce is hard on the parents but what's it like for your kids? 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