{"id":481,"date":"2017-06-02T11:38:52","date_gmt":"2017-06-02T18:38:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ogbornelaw.com\/?p=481"},"modified":"2023-07-25T16:44:26","modified_gmt":"2023-07-25T16:44:26","slug":"protecting-kids-collaborative-divorce","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/webtechs-designs.com\/2023Ogborne\/protecting-kids-collaborative-divorce\/","title":{"rendered":"Protecting Your Kids Inside Collaborative Divorce"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>As active, involved parents, we all wonder what our kids are thinking moment to moment. Likewise, we enjoy experiencing the world through their eyes. At the same time, we strive to protect them from the pains of the world. Sometimes, though, that\u2019s impossible, and we may even be the cause of that pain.<\/p>\n<p>We are the adults, and we have to make tough choices. That can mean we choose to end our marriages and create an entirely different life for our children. It\u2019s hard enough for us to think about all of the things that will change as we embark on this new life without our spouses, sharing time with our children. But what about our kids? How can we help them\u2014protect them\u2014as we move through this challenging transition for our families?<\/p>\n<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_76 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-grey ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title\" style=\"cursor:inherit\">Table of Contents<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><a href=\"#\" class=\"ez-toc-pull-right ez-toc-btn ez-toc-btn-xs ez-toc-btn-default ez-toc-toggle\" aria-label=\"Toggle Table of Content\"><span class=\"ez-toc-js-icon-con\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseProfile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a><\/span><\/div>\n<nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 ' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/webtechs-designs.com\/2023Ogborne\/protecting-kids-collaborative-divorce\/#Honesty_Is_the_Best_Policy\" >Honesty Is the Best Policy<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/webtechs-designs.com\/2023Ogborne\/protecting-kids-collaborative-divorce\/#How_Collaborative_Divorce_Helps_Kids\" >How Collaborative Divorce Helps Kids<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Honesty_Is_the_Best_Policy\"><\/span>Honesty Is the Best Policy<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>When it comes to talking to our kids about divorce, it\u2019s always a touchy subject. How much do we tell them? When do we tell them? Questions abound, and answers vary.<\/p>\n<p>For the most part, we want to be honest with kids\u2014to a point. Obviously, if Dad was cheating with his secretary, your five-year-old doesn\u2019t need to know all of the details. But she does need to know that the divorce is happening.<\/p>\n<p>Just as you would answer any child\u2019s question about something that seems beyond them (e.g., sex or world disasters) with simple, straightforward answers, use the same approach when discussing divorce.<\/p>\n<p><em>\u201cMy parents sat down with my sister and me and told us they were getting divorced. We had lots of questions, but they didn\u2019t tell us too much about it. Just that they weren\u2019t happy together as husband and wife, but that they loved us. They told us we didn\u2019t do anything wrong, that they made this decision themselves. It hurt, but I\u2019m glad they told us. Things were getting too weird and quiet in our house.\u201d \u2014Christian, age 12<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Christian nails one of the key points in talking to your children about divorce: Always stress that they had nothing to do with your decision. Kids of all ages internalize what happens around them in an effort to make sense of the world. That means that when you divorce, they\u2019re going to focus on their part in it. You need to stress to them they had no part. A divorce is a grown-up decision, and kids only factor into that decision in how you can help them continue to feel loved by and close to their parents.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How_Collaborative_Divorce_Helps_Kids\"><\/span>How Collaborative Divorce Helps Kids<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>A collaborative setting gives children a voice with which to share their thoughts and feelings. They are also provided with an advocate to voice their concerns with their parents and the attorneys. It\u2019s a much different approach than in a litigation-based divorce, where the children are usually thought of less as people and more as assets to be divided.<\/p>\n<p><em>\u201cI\u2019ll admit that I didn\u2019t love the fact that my parents were getting a divorce. But they did it in this different way where my sister and I got to talk. We said where we wanted to live and how we wanted to share our time with Mom and Dad. Of course, we didn\u2019t get everything we wanted, but it was nice to be asked and be part of everything.\u201d \u2014 Samantha, age 15<\/em><\/p>\n<p>When children feel empowered and as if their opinions matter, they are more likely to move through the divorce proceedings maintaining their strong emotional health. And that will help them feel honored, loved, and cherished\u2014all emotions we want our children to experience. This is how you can protect your kids inside collaborative divorce.<\/p>\n<p>If you are considering divorce and have children, you owe it to your entire family to look at your options with collaborative divorce. Contact the professionals at Ogborne Law to answer your questions.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>A collaborative setting gives children a voice with which to share their thoughts and feelings. 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