{"id":57,"date":"2015-12-24T02:36:45","date_gmt":"2015-12-24T09:36:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/ogbornelaw.dev\/?p=57"},"modified":"2023-07-25T16:17:07","modified_gmt":"2023-07-25T16:17:07","slug":"17-things-not-to-do-during-collaborative-divorce","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/webtechs-designs.com\/2023Ogborne\/17-things-not-to-do-during-collaborative-divorce\/","title":{"rendered":"17 Things Not To Do During Your Collaborative Divorce"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u00a0<\/strong>Just getting through your divorce can be challenging enough without you making it harder on yourself.<\/p>\n

Even with a collaborative divorce, we sometimes see people make crazy mistakes that will make everyone\u2019s life more difficult.<\/p>\n

Here is a list 17 things NOT TO DO during the collaborative divorce process.<\/p>\n

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  1. Hide Things From Your Attorney<\/strong> \u2013 The only way the divorce process works effectively is if you\u2019re open and honest, especially with your own attorney. They can\u2019t help you if you hide things from them.<\/li>\n
  2. Rack Up More Debt<\/strong> \u2013 Avoid adding more debt. And definitely don\u2019t rack up any in your spouse\u2019s name. This makes negotiations much harder.<\/li>\n
  3. Blow Up On Social Media<\/strong> \u2013Social media seems like a safe place to vent. It is not. Assume anything you say or share will<\/em> make it back to your spouse.<\/li>\n
  4. Send Crazy Text Messages Or Emails<\/strong> \u2013 You might feel like you\u2019re at your last straw and want to send that #$%! text message or email. Don\u2019t do it. Not only is it a matter of record, the damage it causes during the collaborative divorce process is considerable.<\/li>\n
  5. Get Pregnant (or Get Someone Else Pregnant)<\/strong> \u2013 Pregnancy during a divorce needlessly complicates matters. If it happened before the divorce, that\u2019s one thing. But don\u2019t set out to get or cause a pregnancy during the divorce.<\/li>\n
  6. Negotiate Without Your Attorney<\/strong> \u2013 It seems like the nice thing to do, to have a discussion with your spouse on the phone about the collaborative divorce, but don\u2019t do it. You will complicate the final agreement later if you promise something but then have to take it back.<\/li>\n
  7. Cash Checks Belonging to Your Spouse<\/strong> \u2013 You might still have joint accounts but don\u2019t cash checks belonging to your spouse. If you end up with money that is in their name, document it, and then talk to your attorney about what to do next.<\/li>\n
  8. Forget to Get Copies of Records<\/strong> \u2013 Always make sure you have copies of all financial records. It might have worked out that your spouse was responsible for all that stuff during marriage but you want a copies of everything for afterwards in case there is a problem.<\/li>\n
  9. Forget to Update Your Medical Power of Attorney<\/strong> \u2013 Updating your estate plan is important after the divorce is final but you want to update your medical power of attorney. It is complicated if your soon to be ex-spouse is responsible for making life or death decisions for you.<\/li>\n
  10. Make Large Purchases<\/strong> \u2013 Even if the money is your money, it\u2019s best to avoid making large purchases during the divorce process. The last thing you want is to create an appearance that you\u2019re trying to shift money away.<\/li>\n
  11. Forget to Read Court Communications<\/strong> \u2013 Read everything you get from your attorney and the court as soon as you get it. Many things are time sensitive and affect your rights during the divorce.<\/li>\n
  12. Lose Your Temper<\/strong> \u2013Divorce is stressful, even a collaborative divorce. Nevertheless, it\u2019s important to manage your temper, especially in front of your spouse and kids, and during negotiations.<\/li>\n
  13. Forget to Take Care of Yourself<\/strong> \u2013Keep your normal routine as best as possible and talk to your counselor \u2013 they\u2019re there to help you manage the emotional side of divorce.<\/li>\n
  14. Drink Excessively or Use Illegal Drugs<\/strong> \u2013 Sometimes people get carried away with drinking or illegal drugs. Avoid this during your collaborative divorce. A night out blowing off steam with friends that result in a DUI arrest will complicate your divorce process.<\/li>\n
  15. Forget to Keep Track of All Communications<\/strong> \u2013 Keep track of everything you get from your spouse, your attorney, their attorney, and the court. Set-up files and put everything there so as not to lose them. It will be important later.<\/li>\n
  16. Dump Assets<\/strong> \u2013 Don\u2019t sell her antique armoire, his father\u2019s stamp collection, or the stock portfolio until a final agreement has been made.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Last and probably the most important of all of them, never<\/strong>\u2026<\/p>\n

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    1. Bad Mouth Your Ex In Front of the Kids<\/strong> \u2013 No matter what your ex has done or said during the course of the divorce process, never bad mouth them in front of your kids. It only hurts your kids and your relationship with them. It\u2019s never worth the price you pay.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

      When you work with Ogborne Law on your collaborative divorce, we\u2019ll help you avoid these pitfalls and more to keep things on track.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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