{"id":981,"date":"2018-08-02T10:12:25","date_gmt":"2018-08-02T17:12:25","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ogbornelaw.com\/?p=981"},"modified":"2023-07-24T17:20:01","modified_gmt":"2023-07-24T17:20:01","slug":"how-to-ask-for-a-prenup-without-causing-a-breakup","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/webtechs-designs.com\/2023Ogborne\/how-to-ask-for-a-prenup-without-causing-a-breakup\/","title":{"rendered":"How to ask for a prenup without causing a breakup"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>When you\u2019re deeply in love with someone and get engaged, it can feel like a slap in the face to be <a href=\"https:\/\/ogbornelaw.com\/setting-proper-expectations-in-marriage\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">asked for a prenuptial agreement<\/a>. If you&#8217;re going to ask for a prenup, you need to carefully plan out your approach. Wanting a prenup doesn\u2019t mean you love them less, or that you don\u2019t trust them\u2014but how do you convey that? The last thing you want the request to do is to lead to a breakup.<\/p>\n<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_76 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-grey ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title\" style=\"cursor:inherit\">Table of Contents<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><a href=\"#\" class=\"ez-toc-pull-right ez-toc-btn ez-toc-btn-xs ez-toc-btn-default ez-toc-toggle\" aria-label=\"Toggle Table of Content\"><span class=\"ez-toc-js-icon-con\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseProfile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a><\/span><\/div>\n<nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 ' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/webtechs-designs.com\/2023Ogborne\/how-to-ask-for-a-prenup-without-causing-a-breakup\/#How_to_Ask_for_a_Prenup\" >How to Ask for a Prenup<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/webtechs-designs.com\/2023Ogborne\/how-to-ask-for-a-prenup-without-causing-a-breakup\/#Benefits_of_a_Prenuptial_Agreement\" >Benefits of a Prenuptial Agreement<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/webtechs-designs.com\/2023Ogborne\/how-to-ask-for-a-prenup-without-causing-a-breakup\/#Get_Help_with_a_Difficult_Conversation\" >Get Help with a Difficult Conversation<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How_to_Ask_for_a_Prenup\"><\/span>How to Ask for a Prenup<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>If you aren&#8217;t careful when you ask for a prenup, it may feel like you\u2019re predicting a divorce. No significant other wants to think that you have a doom and gloom outlook on a marriage that hasn\u2019t even happened yet. However, being honest and communicating clearly can lay the foundation for a very successful marriage.<\/p>\n<p>A prenuptial agreement is beneficial and important. The good news is, there are ways to ask for a prenup, without causing a breakup. Here are some tips that can help you navigate this <a href=\"https:\/\/ogbornelaw.com\/love-communication\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">touchy conversation<\/a>.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Do it in an appropriate place.<\/strong>\u00a0<em>Honey, I want a prenup,\u00a0<\/em>is probably not the best conversation-starter during a fancy dinner. Find a private location, free from distractions, for both of you to share your feelings.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Ask, don\u2019t demand.<\/strong>\u00a0<em>Sign this prenup, or we aren&#8217;t getting married,\u00a0<\/em>is an ultimatum you should avoid. Instead, start by asking to have a conversation about a difficult subject. Let your partner know this may feel uncomfortable to discuss.\u00a0<em>Ask\u00a0<\/em>them how they feel about a prenup.\u00a0<em>Ask\u00a0<\/em>if they&#8217;d be willing to sign one.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Share your feelings.<\/strong>\u00a0<em>I have been burned badly; I lost my business.<\/em> <em>It\u2019s important to me to have a prenup.<\/em> \u201cI\u201d statements are key in this situation. It\u2019s important to share the reasons and fears of why you want to ask for a prenuptial agreement. Don\u2019t just say, <em>I\u2019m scared<\/em>, and leave it at that. Go into detail and allow your partner to weigh in.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Don\u2019t get angry.<\/strong>\u00a0Don\u2019t tell your partner they are being unreasonable. Ask them why they are resistant. Pause the conversation if things start to feel tense. Resume your talk after both of you have time to cool down and think. Consider bringing a counselor or lawyer into the conversation as well.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Benefits_of_a_Prenuptial_Agreement\"><\/span>Benefits of a Prenuptial Agreement<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Your conversation about a prenuptial agreement should include the advantages for both you and your partner.\u00a0Share some of the benefits, including:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Protecting assets.\u00a0<\/strong>A prenup can protect assets that either party brings into the marriage. It can minimize the risk of losing them if there is a dissolution.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Protecting debts. <\/strong>It can also protect\u00a0both parties from taking on the other\u2019s debts.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Protecting businesses.\u00a0<\/strong>If you build a business before your marriage, a prenup can let you keep it, as long as your spouse didn&#8217;t help create it. This can be very beneficial in the case of a generational family business.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Creating clarification.\u00a0<\/strong>You can <a href=\"https:\/\/ogbornelaw.com\/prenup-cover\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">clarify any special agreements<\/a>. Work with an attorney to determine what to include.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Get_Help_with_a_Difficult_Conversation\"><\/span>Get Help with a Difficult Conversation<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>It may not feel romantic to ask for a prenup, but it does show your commitment to the relationship. It may be useful to prepare your thoughts and enlist the help of a\u00a0professional to walk you and your partner through the process. If you want to learn more about creating a prenup before your wedding day, <a href=\"https:\/\/ogbornelaw.com\/contact\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">contact Ogborne Law<\/a> today.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Ask for a prenup with care and consideration to avoid a breakup. 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